Like many chronic diseases, asthma doesn't just affect the person who has it - it affects the whole family.
When my kids were little, they were sick - a LOT! And they were hospitalized 12 times (usually with pneumonia.) And it was always a tough time for the whole family.
And that meant plans went out the window. Sleepovers were cancelled, dinner was missed, and basic things around the house were neglected.
When one of the kids was in the hospital, that's all we would focus on. Who would spend the day/night at the hospital, who would spend the day/night at home with the other kids.
We would run out of groceries, the lawn would need to be mowed, homework would be skipped. Soccer practice? Nope. Scouts? Sometimes.
We would fit in whatever we could.
I remember driving home from the hospital late one night with Son #1 while Hubby stayed at the hospital for the night. (Son #2 and daughter Kitty were both in the hospital with pneumonia.)
We were almost home when Son #1 said, "Hey mom, the new term starts tomorrow and I need gym shorts since I'm starting a gym class." Not kidding.
It was 10:00 at night.
I was exhausted, had a killer headache, and just wanted to climb into bed.
So, what's the closest store that is near me and open late - and carries gym shorts? Well, we started out at Target and had Walmart as a back up. Luckily, there was one pair of black gym shorts left in his size - what are the odds? We were in luck!
In the early years, we muddled through parenting and never won "Parent of the Year!" awards.
Were we perfect parents? No. Did the other kids get neglected? Yep.
Did we muddle through and all survive?
Asthma also affected our jobs.
Hubby and I would often miss work as we tried to juggle kids in the hospital and kids at home. The kids weren't hospitalized EVERY time they were sick, sometimes they were just sick enough that they would need to stay home and miss 4 or 5 days of school. So, that meant one of us would need to stay home to take care of the kids.
What can you do when you have a kid with asthma who seems to always be sick? I would let the kid's teachers know that they had a brother or sister in the hospital and that my child may need extra love and attention that week.
I would let the neighbors or grandparents take the kids to scouts, dance, soccer games and out to dinner.
When people would ask, "What can I do?" I would tell them!
Do you have time to drop by the pharmacy? Can you pick up milk and bread at the grocery store?
It takes a village to raise a child, so call on your fellow villagers when you need a little extra help.